Introduction
I have wondered what my first article of 2010 would be and I had given some long and hard thought
concerning it. I have always been disturbed about the lack of real debate and real dialogue that takes place in our back-and-forth
discussions in our society and world. This is not a new phenomenon; nor is it isolated to our political landscape --- it can
be found in our homes, offices, congregations and schools.I would like to discuss a few of these sure dialogue stoppers that
prevent understanding and thwart real communication.
1. Try to refrain from using "always"
or "never": Human beings may be peculiar creatures of habit, but rarely can it be said in our interactions
that we are either always guilty of something or incapable of doing certain things. I want to make this personal. Think about
your personal or familial relationships; then think about the myriad discussions, conversations and disagreements that you
have had that have met an impasse at the intersection of always and never.